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Dating Tips for Guys: Improvisation Dating Tips for Guys: Improvisation Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo There's a myth that say's a man needs to be interesting to attract a girl.You even hear girls espousing this garbage themselves. If you ask a girl of what she would like to hear from a guy as an approach, they say things like, "something interesting" or "I like a man that have a sense of humor," or "be unique, don't just say what all the other guys say." OK sweetheart, I'll do my best to be as interesting, funny, and unique as possible, all at the same time. I'll even take a survey from every other male on the planet to find out what they've said, so that I know what not to say. Yeah, that's sarcasm. Here's the thing - I don't have any anger at women's opinions. Who wouldn't want to be approached with a good joke or interesting comment? The problem is in the question itself, or rather the ASKING of that question. You see, the focus that spawned that question is the same focus that prevents a guy from being funny, interesting, or unique. If you know something about improvisation comedy, you will know that as you TRY to be interesting, funny or unique, you will probably say something boring, lame, and typical. One of the fundamental rules of improve is to allow yourself to be boring, stupid, silly. This frees up your mind to think creatively - it's like your mind is only creative when the pressure is off. When your thoughts are filled with expectations, there's no room for new ideas! We can learn a lot about successful socializing by studying the principles of improv-comedy. In fact there's a man out there who's built his entire pickup coaching career using the rules of improve-comedy. He's one of the more well-known guys in this business, and for good reason! The more attractive than premeditated is always being natural behavior and being spontaneous. But simply improvising approach after approach is not the best thing either. At some point, you need to start connecting the dots, putting the pieces together, and seeming the commonalities that arise in each interaction. That's why I have structured natural game to teach. You see, a guy needs an element of structure, and a goal, otherwise he starts spinning in circles and ultimately shuts down. This is why men have so much trouble staying in conversations with women. They can't figure out the point of the whole thing, the goal, and they don't have a framework within which to work. Let me give you an example. If are commissioned to draw a picture, without any rules or limits, you will be stumped. "Draw us a nice picture." Sounds easy enough...until you put the pencil to the paper. What to draw? Every idea you have seems clichéd and boring. But what if you were given a structure within which to create? "Using only shades of blue and green, draw something that must fit these dimensions. Also, it should give the viewer a sense of calm. Above that, use your sense of imagination." Ah, now we have something to work with - a starting point as it were. See, I know how guys think. That's the reason why my Drills Bootcamp is so successful, and gets such dramatic results in my clients. Pickup is not a stage without rules, without limits, without a purpose and structure. But it's also not a scripted play, the same performance every time. Pickup has principles and dynamics necessary for success. Women are attracted to certain traits, and respond with some level of consistency to certain behaviors. You can do this with your natural personality - the way you fill in a coloring book with YOUR COLORS. There is an infinite amount of creativity possible in pickup, simply because there are basic principles you must satisfy. The good news is, you are already built to satisfy women's needs, and to learn how to maximize your odds. You've been taught to NOT do these things. About the Author: Get any women phone number: http://www.vindicarlo.com/dating-tips">http://www.vindicarlo.com/dating-tips And make the type of girl your friends go green with envy over, into your loyal girlfriend: http://www.vindicarlo.com/dating-tips">http://www.vindicarlo.com/dating-tips ---------- This article is distributed on behalf of the author by http://SubmitYOURArticle.com SubmitYOURArticle.com is a trading name of Takanomi Limited. Takanomi Limited is a limited company registered in England and Wales. Registered number: 5629683. Registered office: 31 St Saviourgate, York YO1 8NQ. Full contact details are at http://takanomi.com ---------- Thanks for your interest in... Dating Tips for Guys: Improvisation |